Got this from CLEO.
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9 THINGS NOT WORTH RISKING YOUR RELATIONSHIP FOR:

1. An affair -
Women cheat, often rationalising their actions by blaming an inattentive partner. Men cheat, often rationalising their actinoas by simply being presented with the chance to sleep with someone new. Either way, even if the strayer can be assured that their infidelity will never be discovered, an important shift takes place in the dynamic of the relationship. A sacred bond has been broken and even if you think you can masquerade that everything is as it was, your man will know something is up. Just as you would if he were sleeping around.

The alternative, of course, is coming clean. While your honesty is commendable, it will result in cast amounts of wounded pride, a sense of trust that will never be completely rebuilt and - somewhere deep in the male brain - the notion that if he too cheated, you'd owe him the chance he's giving you. Not a good combination. At all.

2. A threesome -
No matter how much he begs you or how intrigued you are, a threesome is not going to make your relationship stronger. Sure, the erotic novelty of a trio may be enticing but it's an escapade best left to the single. Why? Because sex between two people who love one another is more than just getting your rocks off. There's also a level of emotional connection at play - which is put on hold when a third party climbs into bed. Why, you think, would he need another woman in bed with him when you're already there, you may wonder in the post-coital funk. He may ask a similar question if the roles were switched. It's natural to wonder why you alone are not enough for your partner and this thought is the baton twirler at the head of a whole marching band of insecurity.

3. Your jobs -
At different times in our lives, we have different priorities. When career success - with its long hours and perhaps business travel - is top on the agenda, relationships invariably suffer. And all those "I'm working to make a great life for us" justifications seem hollow when all you want is to be with the one you love. It's not that you can't have a relationship and a career. Rather, it's about finding someone whose agenda matches yours. But no one wants to feel like their partner is more loyal to a company than to them. Your boss will only love you when you're contributing to his bonus but your partner will love you regardless. Remember this before your loved one starts to feel as if they're being made redundant.

4. Cyber-snooping -
This faux pas is the equivalent of an artificial respirator for a dying relationship. Why would you take it upon yourself to snoop through his email or SMS inbox? The curiosity is understandablebut taking it further broadcasts the assumption that he has something to hide. Not exactly a basis for happily ever after. No matter how stealthy you think you are, one day you will be caught. And until then, you might even start creating elaborate suspicions about genuinely innocuous messages and wondering who "Lisa" is. Eventually, your prying nature will get the better of you and you'll ask. To which he'll reply, "My cousin who's visiting from Sabah and wanted hotel recommendations." By then, of course, it's too late. Your true nature has been revealed and he's not sure whether he likes what he sees.

5. The mad rush -
Once in a relationship, it's only natural that you'll want to establish whether you and your partner have similar long-term goals. Who wants to spend years with someone only to be told "Actually, I never want to get married" or "Kids? I don't think so". But acquiring this information shouldn't come at the expense of the here and now. Give it a year to get to know each other on an increasingly deeper level and enjoy all the fun stuff that comes early-on. Demanding a five-year plan at any time within this period will have him feeling rushed and wondering if you're worith it. But if you don't know whether your long-term visions coincide after four seasons, you're perfectly entitled to ask where he sees this going.

6. His private fantasies -
Men realise that our fantasies are often disgusting and depraved. That's why we're so reticent to share them with you. We're hesitant that the entire content of our character will be judged according to this one part of our brains. We know that once we reluctantly condess a scenario involving you in a Wonderwoman outfit and beads that weren't designed to be worn around the neck, you will recoil in horror. Then judge the entire conent of our character accordingly. If you open the door, be prepared for what is going to step through it. Otherwise, he may feel betrayed by your response. He shared something deeply private and now feels he has sunk in your estimation for doing so. Doesn't exactly bode well for future honesty and revelations.

7. Wanting to be together 24/7 -
Here's a word no one in a relatinoship likes to hear: Seperation. Yet it's precisely this concept that strengthens many a long-term liaison. Relax. Talking hours here, not months. As long as most of your time is still spent together, these periods of independence spent on individual pursuits allow both parties to bring new ideas and energy back to the relationship. It also gives you a chance to miss omseone, a process that often serves as a timely reminder about why you fell in love with them in the first place. Deny him those solo sojourns and he'll quickly feel suffocated. And we all know that suffocation quickly leads to that most lame of all male break-up lines, the need for "space".

8. Not allowing him a past -
Newsflash: He had a life before you camt onto the scene. Deny it all you will but there were other women he loved - and restricting his access to them will only shotern your relationship. If he's honest with you about still being friends with these women, he should score more points - not less - in your book. It shows that although these relationships ended, the demise was handled in a civilised enough manner that he and his ex can still be part of one another's lives. Should you find out that he has spent time with an ex, it's still no reason to bust his chops, as he was probably afraid you were going to react the way you are right now. The solution here is saying that you'd prefer it if he were honest in future. As opposed to asking him to never have contact with her again. Unless he has given you previous indication that he might be unfaithful, simply chatting with his ex doesn't mean he wants to be back with her or even have sex for old time's sake. As with the concept of legal justice, men are innocent until proven guilty. Not the other way round.

9. His friends -
Nothing sucks the life out of a relationship like a partner who feels she has the right to criticise your mates. Ad nauseum. They may not be the most hygenic or well-mannered bunch of lads but they have stuck with him through some hard times and why should he have to justify his friendships to you anyway? This works both ways and he is similarly forbidden from laying into your mates. Should this prove a flashpoint, agree to disagree, make these conversations a nogo and allow him to get his belching fix on boys nights out. He'll relish the freedom and cherish you all the more for it.



Eh...... Only some makes sense. Heh.

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